Make Fear Your Friend
Chase Jarvis
Lessons
How to Find Your Purpose Through Grief and Loss with Tunde Oyeneyin
48:49 2What is the Meaning of Life? with Tony Nader
1:17:18 3Weirdness is the Key to Self Improvement with Marcus Buckingham
1:10:59 4How to Unlock the Key to Continuous Innovation with Tony Fadell
41:57 5Talent is Bullsh*t with Steven Pressfield
1:06:26 6Finding Self When No One Is Looking with Jason Reynolds
59:50 7Does Cold Water Exposure Really Have Scientific Backing with Dr. Mark Harper
56:15 8Heal Your Past with Sheleana Aiyana
51:06How An Unconventional Path Got Nabil Ayers To President Of One Of The Most Influential Music Labels
1:04:12 10All the Hacks to Maximize Your Life with Chris Hutchins
1:08:02 11Happiness is an Inside Job with Dr. Rangan Chatterjee
1:19:58 12The Power of Regret with Daniel Pink
49:35 13Data-Driven Life Decisions with Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
1:01:26 14Escape Purgatory of the Mundane With Radical Confidence with Lisa Bilyeu
1:09:58 15Transform the Quality of Your Life with Tony Robbins
51:37 16Strengthen Your Intuition & Unlock Your Inner Wisdom with Amber Rae
1:00:13 17Make Your Message Heard with Victoria Wellman
1:13:34 18Susan Cain: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole
1:09:31 19Can Food Turn Us Into Geniuses with Max Lugavere
1:21:16 20Peace Is a Practice with Morgan Harper Nichols
1:14:56 21Creativity Hates Complacency with Maria Brito
1:10:34 22A Love Letter to Human Potential with Kate Robinson
54:14 23How to Build Confidence and Be More Social with Vanessa Van Edwards
1:01:21 24Trauma Is Wreaking Havoc On Our Lives with Gabby Bernstein
51:59 25Take The Leap, Start a Business with Payal Kadakia
58:37 26What Every Creator Should Know About NFTs with Tom Bilyeu
1:05:47 2740 Seconds To Fame Or Failure with Apolo Ohno
45:52 28Unlock the Power of Nonverbal Communication with Joe Navarro
1:03:28 29Living Shouldn't Hurt with Aaron Alexander
1:20:24 30Ego, Disrupted. How Buddhist Wisdom Meets Western Therapy with Dr. Mark Epstein
1:11:55 31Words Can Take You Anywhere with Arianna Davis
53:00 32Master Your Inner Voice with Dr. Ethan Kross
1:06:21 33Accelerating 10,000 Hours to Mastery with James Altucher
1:09:49 34Transform Your Mind in 12 Minutes a Day with Dr. Amishi Jha
1:15:57 35Powerful Habits to Ease Anxiety and Boost Productivity with Mel Robbins
1:15:17 36The Art of Self-Reinvention with Malcolm Gladwell
1:00:45 37Creative Acts of Curious People with Sarah Stein Greenberg
1:10:01 38Self-Discovery, Activism, and Rock & Roll with Stevie Van Zandt
57:56 39Why Design Matters with Debbie Millman
1:07:04 40Discover Work that Makes You Come Alive with Jonathan Fields
1:15:34 41Releasing Trauma and Mastering Your Emotions with Jason Wilson
1:05:35 42Food Saved Me with Danielle Walker
47:16 43Changing Our Relationship with Rest with Chelsea Jackson Roberts
49:11 44Retracing Passion to Build Lasting Career Success with Chris Bosh
54:27 45Old School Photography + Other Musings with Kai Wong
41:52 46Escalate and Evolve: A Blueprint for Career and Life with Ben Uyeda
1:08:44 47The Stories That Hold Us Back with Jon Acuff
1:07:22 48Poetry, Vulnerability and Finding Your Voice with Jericho Brown
1:13:40 49What Does it Take to be Backable with Suneel Gupta
1:05:38 50Unlocking Creativity, Courage and Success with Rebecca Minkoff
53:00 51How To Heal From Your Past with Dr. Nicole LePera
1:13:54 52That Will Never Work with Marc Randolph
1:12:06 53The Real Cost of Your Dream Life with Rachel Rodgers
1:02:44 54Your Network is Your Insurance Policy with Jordan Harbinger
1:24:15 55Dream First, Details Later with Ellen Bennett
1:14:45 56We're Never Going Back with Harley Finkelstein
1:01:47 57How to Shatter Limitations and Achieve Your Dreams with Steven Kotler
1:08:10 58The Creative Art of Attention with Julia Cameron
1:05:23 59The Path Back to True Self with Martha Beck
59:45 60Upgrade Your Brain and Learn Anything Quickly with Jim Kwik
1:21:22 61The Urgent Need for Stoicism with Ryan Holiday
1:11:30 62Delicious Food Doesn't Have to be Complicated with Julia Turshen
1:14:35 63Netflix and the Culture of Reinvention with Erin Meyer
56:27 64Stop Living On Autopilot with Antonio Neves
1:07:38 65How to Tackle Fear and Live Boldly with Luvvie Ajayi Jones
59:42 66Go from Underestimated to Unstoppable with Jamie Kern Lima
1:05:03 67Hard Work + The Evolution of Self with Priyanka Chopra Jonas
36:36 68The Power of Idealism with Samantha Power
1:34:35 69Pushing the Limits with Extreme Explorer Mike Horn
1:22:54 70Fast This Way with Dave Asprey
1:15:34 71Uncomfortable Conversations with Emmanuel Acho
45:59 72Why Conversation Matters with Rich Roll
1:24:17 73Elevating Humanity Through Business with John Mackey
1:15:14 74When Preparation Meets Opportunity with Paul Ninson
1:04:14 75The Art of Practice with Christoph Niemann
1:12:18 76Matthew McConaughey: Embracing Resistance & Catching Greenlights
1:19:38 77Starve the Ego, Feed the Soul with Justin Boreta
1:25:32 78Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results with James Clear
1:20:55 79Badass Habits and Making Them Stick with Jen Sincero
1:06:12 80Break Free from Self-Limiting Beliefs with Dr. Benjamin Hardy
1:09:18 81Imposter Syndrome, Getting Unstuck and The Practice with Seth Godin
1:13:19 82The Art of Curiosity and Lifelong Wisdom with Chip Conley
58:47 83The Lost Art of Breath with James Nestor
1:03:15 84The Art of Reinvention with Sophia Amoruso
1:03:59 85Harness Kindness as Your Hidden Super Power with Adrienne Bankert
1:08:26 86Heal the Soul, Restore the Calm with Stephan Moccio
1:28:19 87Finding Resilience & Possibility with Guy Raz
1:08:47 88Truth, Fear, and How to do Better with Luvvie Ajayi Jones
1:18:22 89The Future is Faster Than You Think with Peter Diamandis
57:56 90Music, Writing, and Time For Change with Nabil Ayers
1:20:38 91Freedom to Express Who We Are with Shantell Martin
1:10:34 92So You Want to Talk about Race with Ijeoma Oluo
1:10:47 93Photographing History with Pete Souza
1:16:35 94Maybe You Should Talk to Someone with Lori Gottlieb
58:51 95Never Settle with Mario Armstrong
1:38:11 96The Science of Making Work Not Suck with Adam Grant
1:15:36 97Street Photography + Capturing Truth with Steve John Irby
1:10:54 98Life, Writing, and Real Talk with Roxane Gay
1:05:57 99Steve Aoki: Creativity, Community and No Days Off
50:57 100The Power of Passion and Perseverance with Angela Duckworth
1:08:25 101Know What Drives You with Michael Gervais
1:05:20 102The Code of the Extraordinary Mind with Vishen Lakhiani
59:07 103Risk, Fear, and the Art of Chill with Jimmy Chin
1:13:51 104Personal Growth and Understanding with Citizen Cope
1:16:21 105Living Life on Purpose with Jay Shetty
1:20:06 106Get Out of Your Own Way with Dave Hollis
1:08:10 107Hope in A Sea of Endless Calamity with Mark Manson
1:15:12 108How to Find Yourself with Glennon Doyle
1:10:16 109Make It Til You Make It with Owen Smith
1:20:50 110Surf, Survival, and Life on the Road with Ben Moon
1:08:01 111Create the Change You Seek with Jonah Berger
1:00:22 112Workplace Revolution with Amy Nelson
1:05:16 113Rethink Impossible with Colin O'Brady
1:29:31 114Good Enough is Never Good Enough with Corey Rich
1:25:24 115Say Yes To What You Want with Chris Burkard
1:22:54 116Finding Stillness In A Fast Paced World with Ryan Holiday
1:08:00 117Everything is Figureoutable with Marie Forleo
43:50 118The Art of Being Yourself with Elizabeth Gilbert
53:41 119Creativity, Comedy, and Never Settling with Nate Bargatze
1:37:12 120Personal + Career Reinvention with Jasmine Star
1:01:18 121Stay Creative, Focused and True to Yourself with Austin Kleon
1:12:25 122Ramit Sethi 'I Will Teach You To Be Rich' book launch with Chase Jarvis
1:07:17 123You Don't Need to Be Rich to Live Rich with David Bach
1:09:51 124Harnessing Your Human Nature for Success with Robert Greene
1:04:28 125Addiction, Reinvention, and Finding Ultra with Endurance Athlete Rich Roll
1:07:41 126Disruption, Reinvention, and Reimagining Silicon Valley with Arlan Hamilton
1:12:31 127The Intersection of Art and Service with Rainn Wilson
1:03:25 128Your Mind Can Transform Your Life with Tom Bilyeu
1:30:19 129Do Something Different with Jason Mesnick
1:02:38 130Less Phone, More Human with Dan Schawbel
1:07:40 131Startup to $15 Billion: Finding Your Life's Work with Shopify's Harley Finkelstein
1:12:42 132It Doesn't Have to be Crazy at Work with Jason Fried
1:49:02 133Love, Service, and Living Your Truth with Danielle LaPorte
1:11:05 134How to Do Work That Matters for People Who Care with Seth Godin
1:10:56 135Happiness Through Gratitude with AJ Jacobs
1:12:54 136You Are Your Habits with Julien Smith
1:03:40 137Maximizing Creativity + Navigating the Messy Middle with Scott Belsky
1:09:10 138The Most Important Conversation About Life… Death with Michael Hebb
1:13:38 139Redemption and a Thirst for Change with Scott Harrison
54:58 140Imagination and The Power of Change with Beth Comstock
1:12:29 141Success, Community, and his cameo in Parks & Recreation with NBA All Star Detlef Schrempf
1:02:02 1421,000 Paths to Success with Jack Conte
1:07:32 143Unconventional Ways to Win with Rand Fishkin
1:37:49 144How to Sell Without Selling Out with Ryan Carson
1:05:45 145Be the Artist You Want to Work With with Nigel Barker
47:12 146Your Story Is Your Power with Elle Luna
1:33:53 147Celebrating Your Weirdness with Thomas Middleditch
1:14:04 148Persevering Through Failure with Melissa Arnot Reid
1:33:23 149Go Against the Grain with David Heinemeier Hansson
1:18:07 150Stamina, Tenacity and Craft with Eugene Mirman
1:17:15 151Create Work That Lasts with Todd Henry
1:06:50 152Make Fear Your Friend
08:08 153Tame Your Distracted Mind with Adam Gazzaley
1:12:08 154Why Grit, Persistence, and Hard Work Matter with Daymond John
1:05:15 155How to Launch Your Next Project with Product Hunts with Ryan Hoover
1:11:15 156Lessons in Business and Life with Richard Branson
45:05 157Embracing Your Messy Beautiful Life with Glennon Doyle
1:27:29 158How to Create Work That Lasts with Ryan Holiday
1:20:25 1595 Seconds to Change Your Life with Mel Robbins
1:14:53 160Break Through Anxiety and Stress Through Play with Charlie Hoehn
1:08:10 161The Quest For True Belonging with Brene Brown
1:29:41 162Real Artists Don't Starve with Jeff Goins
1:19:16 163Habits for Ultra-Productivity with Jessica Hische
56:18 164Using Constraints to Fuel Your Best Work Ever with Scott Belsky
1:21:07 165The Intersection of Art and Business with AirBnB's Joe Gebbia
1:19:56 166Build a World-Changing Business with Reid Hoffman
1:19:31 167How Design Drives The World's Best Companies with Robert Brunner
1:05:33 168Why Creativity Is The Key To Leadership with Sen. Cory Booker
53:06 169How To Change The Lives Of Millions with Scott Harrison
1:16:14 170How To Build A Media Juggernaut with Piera Gelardi
1:21:04 171Transform Your Consciousness with Jason Silva
1:08:02 172The Formula For Peak Performance with Steven Kotler
1:01:40 173How What You Buy Can Change The World with Leila Janah
1:04:10 174Overcoming Fear & Self-Doubt with W. Kamau Bell
47:44 175The Unfiltered Truth About Entrepreneurship with Adam Braun
1:21:36 176Build + Sustain A Career Doing What You Love with James Mercer of The Shins
51:58 177How Design Can Supercharge Your Business with Yves BĂ©har
33:40 178Conquer Fear & Self-Doubt with Amanda Crew
1:29:39 179Become A Master Communicator with Vanessa Van Edwards
1:19:52 180How iJustine Built Her Digital Empire with iJustine
1:08:05 181How To Be A World-Class Creative Pro with Joe McNally
1:05:19 182How To Stop Waiting And Start Doing with Roman Mars
43:43 183Gut, Head + Heart Alignment with Scott Dadich
38:17 184If Not Now, When? with Debbie Millman
55:31Lesson Info
Make Fear Your Friend
(synth music) Talk to me about how you view fear because there's so much fear in the photo industry. People are afraid to make mistakes. They're afraid to get called out. They're afraid to do shitty work. They're afraid to be called out on something, and a lot of that keeps creative people in a little shell. So. Fear is a real driver, and it has been for me as well in the past, whether it was athletics, or writing, or academia, or whatever it might have been. And I realized that it's a driver based on risk, and that's when people define risk, or should define risk, as the possibility of an irreversible negative outcome. And what I mean by that is, just like most people fail to achieve their goals because they're poorly defined, most people are prevented from doing things based on fear because it's poorly defined. There's a couple things we all probably fear. Being judged unfairly. Not being able to provide for our loved ones and our family. Death and losing people that we love. I...
think those are a lot of things, but the fear ourselves are often about the fear of being able to be acknowledged, and/or the fear of failing, and people looking at you as a failure. And so our brain wants a story, and our brain likes a story that pitches bad guys, good guys, safe and dangerous. And so the stories we make up normally are our worst fears, and turn the people that are in our stories into enemies. It's the same as somebody else saying, "I'm not good enough." It's the same as somebody else saying, "no one's gonna like what I have to do." It's just a bullshit nonsense lie you tell yourself that's not healthy for you or the work. Right? You have no idea what's gonna happen tomorrow. No idea. You have no idea that this thing you're writing, or doing or that you think is the best thing ever, you have no idea if anyone else is gonna like it. You operate, I'd like to say uncertainty is a very confident place to be. Really, the more you can sort of let go. Though you have no idea about what's gonna happen in the future, you have no idea about what other people are gonna connect with it or not, and just do it, and try to make it your best. Put all your heart and love and care into it, and then be unattached. You wanna be accepted, and you have to always second guess yourself. I second guess myself everyday, right? And it's the fear of saying, there's no point in my life that I didn't have fear, and I call it a healthy paranoia in business. Fool was doing well. Okay well, a hot clothing line last five years, Daymond, did you get bit by the apple? Did you bite the apple once or get hit by lightning? No, I gotta share this idea of who I am with the world. I wanna empower other entrepreneurs, but I'm dyslexic. I'm gonna write a book? Are you kidding me? People are gonna laugh at me, right? Fear of am I leaving my daughters inheritancy or a legacy? How will they perceive me? Fear of making my daughters public people, where now they have pressure on them, and I wanna hide them from everybody, or fear of anything else, you know? The President of the United States, President Obama, made me a Presidential Ambassador for global entrepreneurship. I can never let him down. It's always gonna be some level of fear, and that fear is good if it's healthy. I've just never done anything that's turned out to be valuable that wasn't just scared shitless to do it. Everything I've ever done that's ever really made a contribution, I have felt alone in doing it, and afraid, but alive. After the first time that you opt to brave the wilderness, you pull away from what a group of people thinks, maybe it's your creative community, it's your critics, but the first time you pull away, and find power in standing on your own, I think your heart is marked by the wild. I think you belong in and to the wilderness in a different way because every time after that, when you choose fitting in over belonging to yourself, it's painful, and so to me, the whole idea is not just navigating the wilderness, which I think every poet, and theologian, and writer over time has used the wilderness as kind of this lone journey thing. It's not just about navigating the wilderness, it's about becoming the wilderness. It's about becoming, I am going to be on my own a lot, and it's going to be okay because there is beauty and strength in that, and it's not that I won't ever find great joy in being a part of something, but I will always belong to and believe in myself first. There are so many things that you do in business and in life that are really driven by deep insecurity and the need to fill ego, verses the things that actually matter to you. I also think you're one decision away from a totally different life because when you're the kind of person that's sleeping in everyday and waking up and feeling like a loser, and you make one decision that all you're gonna do is actually just get up, no matter how painful it is, what happens is that one decision make you see yourself differently because of the action you're taking. So what I tend to do, if I find myself paralyzed or indecisive, is I'll write down all the worst-case scenarios. Really get hi-def in the absolute specific worst case scenarios, then the second column is what I could do to prevent, anything I could do to prevent those specific items, and then if they happen, what I could do to reverse those or minimize the damage from each of those outcomes. And you find once you do that, that the worst case scenarios are very seldom as bad as you'd envisioned. It's just the nebulous, dark-- When you haven't defined anything. Fantasm of a bad outcome that prevents you from taking action. What you actually realize, oh, worst case scenario: I go back to my last job. Worst case scenario: I take a part time job doing this. Worst case scenario: I have to suck it up for a month or two. Do twice as much work with that one client I don't like, and then this. Then it really doesn't seem as scary, and you can actually move ahead with things. The moment you catch yourself hesitating, or doubting, or starting to worry, or about to chicken out, or shrink, or shut-up, or whatever it is that you're about to do, that is shrinking your power, you just go, five, four, three, two, one. You count backwards, five, four, three, two, one. By counting backwards, the cheat code that you're doing in your mind is you are interrupting what are called habit loops that get encoded in the central part of your brain, and you are starting up the prefrontal cortex. It's a little trick that causes focus. I'd like to say that uncertainty is a very confident place to be. Really the more you can let go of, though you have no idea about what's gonna happen in the future. You have no idea about whether people are gonna connect with it or not, and just do it, and try to make it your best, and put all your heart, and love, and care into it. And then be unattached. Stop walking through the world looking for confirmation that you don't belong 'cause you will always find it. Stop walking through the world looking for evidence that you're not enough because you will always find it. Your self worth and your belonging is not something that we negotiate externally. It's something we carry in our wild hearts, and if we spend our lives looking everywhere we go for evidence that I don't really belong in this meeting, I'm not really an artist, I just do this on the side, and this is my side hustle, but it's not really my job. Or we keep comparing ourselves, you will find exactly what you're looking for. My inspiration is like, embrace your fears, accept them, and do it anyway. (pensive music)
Ratings and Reviews
Dream Focus Studio
By far the best classes on Creative Live!! Thanks Chase Jarvis for bringing so much greatness to the table for discussion! Just LOVE it!
René Vidal
@ChaseJarvis - love chat with Gabby about hope and the "relentless optimism" you share at the end of Creative Calling. Many thanks. -- René Vidal McKendree Tennis
bob
Excellent interview with thoughtful questions. Thanks!!
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