Playing Other Roles
Lesson 18 from: Don't Get Pushed Around: An Introvert's Guide to Getting What You Need at WorkIlise Benun
Playing Other Roles
Lesson 18 from: Don't Get Pushed Around: An Introvert's Guide to Getting What You Need at WorkIlise Benun
Lessons
Introduction to Workshop
06:08 2How to Develop the Confidence to Ask For What You Need
10:07 3Defining Confidence
06:31 4When do You Need Confidence
12:57 5Your Confidence Meter
05:19 6Getting to Know Yourself
04:47 7Doing Shy
09:03 8When Fear Gets in the Way
09:29What do You Need at Work
02:28 10Getting to Know Everyone Else
07:13 11Learn to Read People
04:06 12Are You Listening
02:42 13Skills for Networking
06:18 14Tools for Connecting
07:11 15Getting In and Out of Conversations
06:30 16Skills for In Person Meetings
06:14 17Presenting Your Work
06:03 18Playing Other Roles
05:17 19Skills for Virtual Meetings
04:54 20Effective Communication Tools
03:11 21When to Write
06:05 22When to Call or Text
03:22 23When an Introvert Has to be a Salesperson
07:11 24Boast-free Self Promotion
03:24 25Skills & Strategies for Self Employed Introverts: Marketing Yourself
07:02 26Call to Action
04:31Lesson Info
Playing Other Roles
Now, I just want to talk a little bit about when you are presenting it may not be the most comfortable thing that you do until you get used to it. So one idea about how to do it is this idea of playing another role. Maybe you consider yourself shy, maybe you are an introvert. But there are certain times, especially when presenting, where you can't be. Where that will be detrimental to you. So instead of okay, I'm gonna have to do something I hate doing or I'm not really good at, think about it as a role, as if you are acting. Maybe even fake it til you make it, because there's something amazing that happens when you do something new. It's part of what I've heard described as a virtuous cycle. So you do something and you realize, oh, that wasn't so bad. That feeds you to do a little bit more. You think okay, this is actually working. So it's this cycle where it keeps getting better and better as opposed to a vicious cycle where you do something and it wasn't good and then you spiral dow...
n into your head. You have a choice between choosing the virtuous cycle and the vicious cycle but I find that if you can start doing something and actually embody it before you may feel ready or confident, then that will create the readiness. That will create the confidence that you can then build on. Does that make sense? Okay, good. 'Cause it's an experiment, all of this. Explaining some of these ideas, so sometimes they make sense. This idea of what roles do you play, or what roles can you play, let's do a little whiteboard with the audience, and maybe the online audience also. Can you share with me a role that you play that may not be you? Certain situations? At work? Ivana? Sometimes I have to play the educator. So what does that involve? Maybe breaking down why certain elements are positioned on the project that way. While it's obvious for a designer, for the client it might be a chance for you to educate them. Is that against what you normally would do? Definitely. As you do it does it get easier? It does, for sure. It's all based around how you present yourself and the vocabulary you use. Excellent, thank you, Ivana. Anyone else? Different roles that you play? No? Tiffany? A fixer. Fixing projects that have gone sideways for a client, or helping them to solve a problem that they have no idea where to start or how to begin, or where even to go to get it done. Excellent. Do we have any examples out there? We have a Gene who just chimed in and said comedian. I tend to make jokes when I'm feeling nervous. And then Shawn, the design bartender, says I often play the mediator. This idea of playing a role and giving yourself a job actually go hand-in-hand. So even if it's play the role of the host, or play the role of the waiter, here, would you like another drink? Here, can I get you some more food? Oh, these Swedish meatballs are great. Whatever you need to do, that can be very helpful. So think of it as not changing yourself, not necessarily doing something you'll never be good at, but here's a role I need to play at the moment. Laurie? Sometimes I can only think about questions like how's the weather? It's like stating the obvious. So then I back myself into the corner, like okay. Where's this conversation going? But I think the weather actually these days, because there's so much interesting weather, could be a good way to get into a conversation. What's happening with the fires, or anything. Where were you in that last hurricane? Anything. James, microphone. I actually thought of one. Sometimes depending on who I'm around depending on if the person I know likes to talk or if they like to be shy, I can choose whether I'm gonna be shy or be lead conversator. That's a really interesting point. It's in response to the other person. If they're playing one role, then you perhaps automatically take the other role. That's a really good strategy. Instead of boxing yourself into how are two shy people gonna talk to each other. I like that.
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Ratings and Reviews
Susan
It was interesting to learn from your program what experiences other people have in certain situations and how similar or different they are to mine. And that’s it’s ok to “own” your inner introvert, and to work with it instead of against it. The good thing is, the more self-aware we become, the more aware and sensitive we can be towards others, thanks to shared knowledge and programs like yours. So thank you Ilise, for an enlightening program. I look forward to going back over it sometime.
Simone
Was a great overall course with lots of tips and ways to frame in your mind what may be happening rather than making assumptions. I would have liked a deeper dive into dealing with conflict, people who just don't think and operate the same way, and getting what you need in situations where usual methods aren't working. Perhaps an additional course on that. Thanks
Simone
Was a great overall course with lots of tips and ways to frame in your mind what may be happening rather than making assumptions. I would have liked a deeper dive into dealing with conflict, people who just don't think and operate the same way, and getting what you need in situations where usual methods aren't working. Perhaps an additional course on that. Thanks