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That's a question we have actually comes from memory and I like this one she's saying how do you get your romantic partner to find their mohr on how to help you find help did they help you find yours? I love that question because the relationship to engagement is present in the question I'm a big fan of listening and I'm a huge fan of listening for what's not being said and so when I jump into that kind of a conversation just simply hearing what my partner or my friend or a colleague or a client is saying sometimes it's it's that much more important to hear what's not being said um I think for me getting that downtime of being ableto wake up on a saturday morning and turned to my partner friend colleague and say what would today look like if we were doing arm or I think the lying to be careful of is that by attending a creative life class by writing down your demographic by identifying what more means to you then tomorrow morning you'll start living it I like to remind people that it's...

been years maybe even decades of a home eo static response and what I want to be careful of in that relationship dynamic is thinking that I could have one conversation ask my partner with their morris and then suddenly will be doing that next week so I guess I would give one tactic no, I'm going to give to uh one would be what do I notice them doing that after they've done it they seem happy I would practice this with yourself invited girlfriend out to lunch ask a friend to meet you for a coffee one morning go for a long walk with your friend the dog and by yourself and I would ask that partner that friend and the way that I framed the question I say what have you seen me do lately that when I come back from doing that I'm nicer to be around and if they're your friend they'll tell you if they're really your friend they'll help you add that to your calendar sometime in the next month ah the second one is to be very aware I said I'd give to tactics the second one is I'm going to be very aware of when they're off when they're stressed out when they're sad when they're upset when do they get up super early in the morning when did they stay awake super late at night what's going on that's stressing that situation and if there's anything that I could do to contribute jodi and I have ah saying to each other and it's how can I help you simple words but if I'll actually search and say gosh, could you handle this one thing for me and that would allow me to step outside of it? Um I'm dancing around the question but I think it's a question that will be answered by exploring what that more would look like and how I can be of service to that I understand and I'm dancing around the image now be waking up in the saturday morning next to a colleague your husband will be to please wait another question from luke w looks asking having read the pre course pdf I'm wondering if the lessons learned here can apply to very specific job functions not just general date daly products city can I apply these principles to specific software development tasks? Great example so later today because remember the way that we built the two day course day one all about you the individual in your creativity and in your productivity day two is all about you in collaboration so immediately as I hear that question I'm thinking day to I'm thinking I can have an idea of what my more is what my demographic is what my so that is we're gonna talk about that in a little while but the moment I sit down with a co worker, a boss or a client that can shift that could change the two things most of my mind in response to that one activity will do later today it's called so that it's another angle of looking at purpose and so the software development task the clear one khun b of these so that that that task is a part of and every now and then it actually creates a difficult question for people because I know people still to this day, they go toe work, they show up, they leave eight or ten or twelve hours later, and they're not completely convinced of why they were doing what they were doing. But the holiday season, I'm always fascinated by the part time holiday help that people will take on in retail stores or even in businesses and call centers, and I've asked people, you know, why? Why are you working? And you know, the answer comes with equipment to make money s so well, it's an interesting so that but I know how sustainable it is, and then the second one is when we take a look this afternoon later, we're going to look at this concept I call at my best when and when I'm thinking about a specific task and and by the way, something that you all can do and those of you watching online, if you take out a piece of paper and across the top of that piece of paper you you write down the different kinds of things you do during the day, you're different verticals of what takes up your time. And then I can fill in those those I guess those columns right rose go this way those columns with what does activity and purpose and innovation and creativity and those kinds of things look like for software development, for example and so yes, a lot of this course is going to be talking about generalities of productivity and engagement, but I'm gonna do everything I can to apply those to that next phone call with a client or that next meeting with the team that I'm working with can we go to some questions in the live audience and they will see if anything comes in via the you satellite so we'll be right back through those of you watching come on in our love to pop it to this room we've gotten through two elements so far this morning, so clarifying that what does mohr look like to you? A little bit of an all hoff separating that out I heard a little bit earlier of, well here's why I thought I was doing what I'm doing, but when I unpack that demographic that I'm working with and then taking a look through the later part of the morning at some of the surroundings of that personal engagement, if you will that unfinished business that can keep us up at night or a while when we scratch those off the list can free up a little bit of energy I have ah ha moment because I realized I do actually love being a squirrel and I kind of thrived and being a squirrel and that I'm in two different worlds I'm in health care which is very analytical and stats and I'm looking at a lot of that things but yet the clients that I attract or ones who want to think out of that box but then I'm in another world which is like fashion and the social conscious fashionistas and looking at like text thousand batik which is give me a lot of space to be completely creative but it's kind of like very in one way it's connected because all around social justice but in another way I'm here there there on the squirrel and I'm jumping from place to place and for me that is more because I enjoy both of them but it's also how do I how do I also manage and balance that without going completely and thing and and jackie I love because when when people give me one of these props I just do my peripheral there were three people nodding their head as you were going through that you know I need to be focused and intense and if I leave that one excel cell and go to another one but I got distracted in between versus you be looking through a magazine you flip the page and there's an image that brings you to another continent and I think the tactic that comes to mind for me is I plus sixty to one hundred twenty months to the idea that I'm having right now. I started practicing this when I attended a university program here in the bay area, and over ten days of this executive program, I walked away with one strength, one gift, one thing to practice while I'm reading a magazine article while I'm reading a newspaper headline woman conversation with someone, I'm adding sixty to one hundred twenty months to the conversation, and what it did for me is it allows me as that incoming email is about to take my focus to another website to another video to another fill in the blank survey to get a free white paper about something that I'm kind of interested in anybody relate to this sixty, two hundred twenty months, and I picked that because I'm I'm able to do that. I know people who are very, very good at a little bit closer, they can do the thirty six months that's, their that's, their prime time. I know one guy that I spent a little bit of time with his his his strength of seeing the future is twenty, fifty, twenty, sixty I can't do that, I can't e can't do that yet, so when you're in that focused health care I mean, gosh, do you have a lot you could be focused on right now health care and then you jump over to that fashionista that I need to be in that culture, whatever that comfort level is for you, it might even be in the next season. How will this information help me with next season and then see if there's a little bit of ah guideline no, I don't need to think about that right now who I need to go research that right now I need to call someone to go meet with them to show them this one picture that I just can't get out of my head, that piece that I did a little bit earlier on home eo stasis is so powerful it is so easy to stay in what it is that I'm doing right. How many were subscribed to email newsletters that you get pushed out an email newsletter every now and then could be a daily could be weekly could be a monthly and you anybody at the point now where there are not reading that one anymore, they're reading that they file it. They just you know, to read to read when I have time um what one guy worked with had a faux they're called later later and he was dragging things in the later and I'm always going to question that because that was what you did that got you here. Can I keep on putting things in later because by the way, when one practices as simple as this sounds, but when one practices when their practice is, I see something and put it away and plan to get to a later what might happen when they're sitting in a meeting because they're really good practice makes what, uh, I've always said practice makes normal practice, makes comfortable practice, makes habit. Worse practice makes accepted anybody know anybody who's always late. They're always late, no matter what, they're always late. So you call him up, you invite him to go out. Hey, we're gonna meet and the last one time, and you'll say four because you know they're always late, but they know that you're lying, so they're going to show up a little bit this's dance back and forth, so if the normal up until now, because jackie let's do this it's been of service to you to squirrel, and we're going to keep using this word because you threw it on the table, so I was going to keep rolling with that one, right? But it's been normal for you in fact part of your success about why I know the guy that you used to work with loved working with you so much is because you could look out and you could see the whole game and it would be something off over here that no one else would notice but jackie saw it so that strength that skill set now I'm wondering sixty months from now will that still be something that I want to continue to strengthen not to take a look at a weakness and a lot of research right now on strengths and weaknesses and do I try to bring up a weakness once a strength is on dough I ignore it because it's already a lot of debate out there right now business schools are trying to figure this out you go to harvard and study strengths and weaknesses but sixty months from now do I want people to say oh jackie she's the squirrel girl on the fashion side could be because you are going to be searching looking finding on the health care side could be because you can open up a newspaper article and you could see one quote by one politician and go oh oh sixty months from now I want to ha it'll play it thanks for sharing that that was a big one I think it's anything else stand out from the morning session any of those two elements more important less important useful may go a one and then to be right back it may be a little bit off the beat of what you're talking but in during the break time I was thinking that's more mean to stretch herself a little bit I was just thinking about it do you mean anywhere in that sense or more is to do more productive creative or to just stretch of whatever we're doing right now to do more? I just thought came to me when I was during the break time so I want to bring it on my immediate responses that was my more if if if this environment has created that thought for you I've won because now they'll be a tennis court going back and forth right for someone who is at a point in their life their career, their engagement their relationship where they're actually looking to be less busy I'm gonna ask them how do you do that more? We had a few comments early on this morning where people were putting in negatives of what they wanted more off right I wrote that one down I want more less stress all right I want mohr less debt I want mohr uh mohr better health but sometimes the frame that on the negative side and that's where I went immediately to how important it is to quantify for my own self what that morris jody and I we we played around a little bit with what is the mohr? We want my email inbox to be attracting? I got a lot of people who say, I wish I got less email and I'm always going to say, no, you don't you don't you wish you got less email that you don't want, I want more email, all of the e mails I want I want another email that comes in and says, you know, jason, I saw your creative class, creative live class and I went had a conversation with my boss about what a better meeting looks like and now we're implementing this situation where we're having forty five minute meeting to set of one hour long meetings were doing that three times a month instead of four times a month, but what was that more of and sure, we finally with more efficiency, it's more effectiveness, but it took us our circle to otis route to get there, so I guess you're challenged that you're going to go to sleep with tonight, I'm going to check with you tomorrow is what does more mean, you know, there's, not one single person in this room, not one single person online today that could not do more tomorrow there is an opportunity coming your way, some was signing up for your tony and for your web site right now you just got a new subscriber now we kind of back up and we do that demographic was that subscriber someone who's engaged with your product experience in service was that subscriber a friend who said they all just you know put him in the later looking so how do we kind of amusing this word unpack because by the time we end tomorrow I hope we've put together a new package I can see like I walked into a table full of legos so I want the blue one that I want the white one over those two come together my question is around ah home your status we talked about earlier I'm immediately to me I resonated with that because that I find myself sort of often surrounded by people who are comfortable with the routine and it's it's harder to light up in that kind of environment when you you know when you have big ideas and uh usually didn't called ambitious or you know this or that so how do you communicate like he was saying in a sharing communicate in an environment that is very prone to being comfortable in the status quo or the homey a static environment how do you make that transformation not only for yourself but for the environment around you and by that I mean people are community people that you want to impact by mind immediately goes to the power of branding and this is something that has challenged you know full disclosure my hand goes up what is my brand when people my name comes to mind they have different channels they can think of what have I done over the past months quarter year decade to strengthen or establish that brand so when people think of you for example they have a brand in mind oh here's what she is here's what she does when we launched our company back in two thousand seven jodi started going to different networking events and maybe some of you have been to something like a toastmasters or a b and I are a chamber of commerce these organizations that kind of put people together to have conversations ideally to grow business that's kind of the underlying foundation and one of the things that jodi found was the home eo static response was well, we've gotten together and this is what we do and this is how we do it and what kind of exchange business cards and not right or wrong but not with jodi was looking for offline I can share with you some of the things that she did to change the brand and of what networking meant to her but what's most on my mind with response to what you just shared and for those of you listening online I'd love for you to start thinking about how you might answer this prompt is shift happens subtly that makes a difference when I started my thankyou card process where that came from was a mentor of mine jim and I was just we were about in our third or fourth month of our business he took me out to breakfast fascinate thing about mentors is like my mentors rarely let me pay for meals zika win win and uh anyway during this breakfast that I would jim he threw a question out on the table that that stopped me mid breakfast made oatmeal well hold on and his question was he said jason, what is your gratitude plan for your business as it grows and I confessed to you never have thought about that before we thought about all kinds of things cash flow it's all about supply chain we thought about how to write seminar so people without about doing surveys we thought about following up with clients so that maybe they would've first to somebody but never had I stopped and said what's my gratitude plan for the people who bring us in and work with us and we tried a few things and then suddenly finally I fell into this piece and what's amazing to me is over the years I'll work with a group of work with a client I'll put a little note on paper throw in an envelope put stamp on it I'll go back to their office six months twelve months later and up on their wall is the thank you and I've had people tell me this is jason every now and then I'll look at that card and it just reminds me that things are ok I love noticing so I guess the tactic that I might throw out and see if it lands on fertile soil is when you're in conversation with one of those folks notice what does excite them one of the best call it a marketing tactic if you want but one of the things I do is after I work one on one with a client there's a follow a process it's usually six to twelve months in duration what I do is I'll go subscribed them to a magazine or two along the lines of what we've been working on together magazine subscriptions these days ten bucks thirty dollars harvard business she was ninety nine bucks but for the next twelve months what happens every month something lands and they get to remember wow jason was thinking well, not really but really and it was along their lines of interest and what's amazing is there's a magazine on just about anything these days so we'll work with the guy I would look at record that I will be the guy who had just gotten a labradoodle mrs last summer then I went out and it happened in our town of ojai there's an editor of a uh poodle magazine that connect to me over to the labradoodle editor and so I was just able to throw this thing and what's amazing to me it was subtle it was small it was a little thing but it's a it's a acknowledging them can give what would you have time for one more we have absolutely gets in my class take time if I want tio kind forgot about that. So when I was a high school teacher we had a big class sizes I was doing iraq and thirty students thirty five students a class and I talked five classes a day so I had my little roster the thirty two kids that were in spanish to five of those sheets at six p m every day and this is what kept me at work an extra half an hour or so thank you, jodi for supporting me and that, um at six p m I took out the first period class and iphone called that kid at home and I talked to the student and I talked to the parents and all I did was tell them what they did right that day was it got little johnny on the phone right? Ring ring hello? Johnny yeah, it's mr womack yeah. How you doing? Fine. Sometimes I do stretch right cause I did tell him that they did something right that day is like well is a stretch so johnny, thank you for bringing a pencil to class today that was awesome. Can I talk to your mom? Yeah. Hand the phone over. Mrs smith, this is jason womack often. What did I get? What do you do now? So, no, no, I just want, you know, johnny the great today came to school prepared can't wait to see him tomorrow hung up the phone. Those phone calls went on for four years. Several years later, a decade later, we were in a coffee shop and they, uh, having a conversation, good people and all of a sudden, this guy across the table who had worked out with we're buddies from the gym but didn't really know each other but knew each other kind of friends and we're sitting around that cafe table and all of a sudden mike says your womack and was like, do I run now? I say we don't have a little happen and his short story was he had four daughters who went through the ojai unified school system. So it's forty four years of education, he said jason and forty four years of public education in this community on ly one teacher ever called me over and over and over again because all four of his daughters were in my history or spanish classes, and all I did was called mike to tell him what a great family he had it's the little things you know, there's a lot of years ago, there was that book that came out. Maybe somebody saw it called don't sweat the small stuff and it's all swept small stuff. I we wrote that book for myself, and I find small things to sweat all the time, and even the big ones are chip those away to see if there's a small one, a couple of ideas. Yeah, let's me, a lot of a lot of me talking, I was put my finger on the pulse online community. We're talking about mohr we're talking about identifying that quality and quantity quality quantity beyond I think that the online community of really this's an indication actually when we get really involved with an instructor, we've seen the chatter sort of dies away a little bit and it's always a great sign that they're completely hanging on your every word, and I think that's what's happening right now, I think they also have empathy with the students are going to the students just now was it was really great to hear out there. They're feeling, too, so I'm sure they want to get back into the next section well, we'll see things pick up again.