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Money: Your Relationship Depends on It

Well, this is not gonna be your typical money course, Alright? As John Kerry mentioned, you know, I brought a lot of props. I've brought fun things because I want you to enjoy yourself and have fun with money. Well, people don't think of fun and money together, but throughout these sessions, you're gonna learn so much. Are you ready to learn a lot? All right, fun. Learn a lot. Get a lot out of this. Awesome. So I just want to think creative life for having me. I mean, this is such an amazing company. Such an amazing studio and the people man, I wish you can all see and meet these people. They're so phenomenal. Have built something incredible here. And so I am honored. I am privileged to be here. And I am so excited toe be teaching you and all of you at home So you can really master your money and have a better relationship. Yes. So money mastery for couples. You may have noticed I didn't call this money dabbling for couples. It's not like this. Ah, Get rich quick for couples, it's mone...

y mastery. Now, Do you think mastery happens overnight? Yeah. What's so great about this is that it's an ongoing process. T become masters of your money. It's something that you can do over and over again. You can get better and better at if you even got to a point where you feel like I've mastered my money. Guess what? It's actually not over because five years from now, you're different. You've changed, you've grown. And now you have different goals and different things that you want and you want. You know, everything that you want and everything that you don't have, there's always gonna be a higher standard, Right. So this is something you can continue. You can. It's timeless. You can come back to it, and it's really an unbelievable process that's gonna help you throughout your life. So I want to tell you a quick story. So I'm not sure having an interview. Heard of the book? Okay. The richest man in Babylon. So if you haven't heard about I'm gonna tell you about it now and forgiving it. I'll get all the facts, right, because I'm this is based on my memory here. So there were a couple of gentlemen who were complaining about not having enough money. You know, they were talking just, you know, blaming, complaining and saying you know, Why is it why is it that we're poor when we work so hard? Work so hard and our friend down the street are childhood. Friends are cad, man. He sure has a lot of money and he doesn't even to see. He doesn't even seem to work harder than we dio what's going on. So they decided to go to him and ask our cad, one of the richest men in Babylon. What is this all about? So our count was a very generous man and he said, I'll tell you. And in fact, I asked the same question years ago. So our cada told them that he went to a man named Album is who at the time was one of the richest men. Babylon Probably So was, and he said, Al Commish, please, will you teach me the secret of wealth? They worked out some sort of trade and arguments, said he would, and our cad was very open toe learning. Let me ask you this is it important to be open to learning? You're here for a reason. You are here for a reason and being open is going to allow you to get so much out of this. So he went to AL commission, he said. Tell me what is the secret of wealth and what he what out? What album is said is he, he said. I found the road to wealth when I decided that's a key word when I decided that a part of all I earned was mine to keep say that again when I decided that Ah, part of all that I earned a part of all that I earned was mine to keep. And the gentleman listening to the story said, You know, what do you mean apart isn't everything? I earned mine to keep an album. Isha told our can. No, no, it's not. You need money for clothes for food. Most of your money, you end up giving away, right? So Arcade learned this lesson. He said okay, what he learned from Al commissions that he's going to save 1/10 of his income 10% of his income and guess what? Unlike, Ah, lot of people, he took action, not just action. He took appropriate action and he began to save, save, save, save safe. And he did it after a year. He had saved 10% of his income. And so he was proud. And he took this. And albums had told him that you need to invest it and make it work for you. So we took it to a brick maker who said, Oh, I can bring you Jules Aiken, trade jewels for you. So it gave him his money. Brick maker took his money, and he went back to AL Commission said I did what you said. I saved 10% of my income, and I gave it to a brick maker to get me fine jewels. So my money will grow and an alga Mrs Ono, knowing that his money was gone. And he said, You do not invest with the brick maker to buy jewels, right? He's not an expert at Jules. You go to invest with someone who knows what he's doing in that area, right? Guess what? Our cat did not come rich. So a year goes by again and he saved and he saves. And he saved 10% of his income. Like I can do this because how do you master to get. He hasn't mastered it yet. He was not a rich man, so he saves 10% of his income. He does it. And then he realizes that he can lend money. Teoh, a shield maker. So he lends money to a shield maker who then pay some interest for lending the money. So the shield maker goes and buys materials and our calves. You know, I get my interest on that money and so his money grows. What does he do? Well, he's like, Look at all this money. Now I need better clothes. I need, you know, a finer, finer living space. I need amazing, wonderful food and fine feasts. And he spends his money and he goes back to album ish, wealthy man. And he says, Well, I did it. I invested. I lent money to this man and I made interest, but And he told him what he did right? I spent the money. And so Album is said, Oh, you know our cat. No, you cannot. You cannot spend all your money. You need to make that money grow. He said you were eating the Children of your savings. Mark had learned something a second lesson. So two years go by and he's saving. He's saving. He's saving in this time. He doesn't spend the money. He invests that money, he gets it working for him and he becomes richer. Richard. And he goes back to Al Gomes now. Proud I did it. I did it. An album ish was so proud of him and so impressed with what he had done over years and years of trying to master the craft wealth that he hired him to manage his estate. And that is how our cat became one of the richest men in Babylon. So think about that now. You are going to get to master this. Are you gonna master in three days? No. Are you gonna master it in a year? Probably not. Maybe not, too. May not. Three. Maybe this will take your lifetime, but I have made it very simple for you. Now check this out. Those of you in the audience, you have your money manual. It's called the mouth watering money manual. So grab it. Go ahead and grab. It's under your seat. And for those of you at home, you have the opportunity to download this so you can have the entire manual. This is something that you're gonna wanna work through. Whether it's days, weeks, months, years or forever. Go back to it in 20 years. This stuff is timeless. It does not expire. What I haven't here is not about current events. And what's going on with the market? No, this is about you and your money. This is how you can overcome your own money issues so that you can have a richer relationship, which is why you are here, right? So make sure you get this manual is pages. It is not fluff. I do not know how to deliver fluff. So I am here to give you so much value, so much value that will really change your life. And I want you to think about this. For those of you who have kids, think about who you're really doing this for, because this is about not you. It's not about you. And it's not even about your relationship. This is about who you can become so that you can help people, whether it's your Children, your family, your friends, your clients. So you can be the person you're meant to be and money. And write this one down. You're gonna need take notes. Make sure you have a pad of paper. You got your manual printed out to write this down. Money enhances who you are. Money gives you choices. And that's what you're gonna find out. It's not about money. In fact, in the grand scheme of things, money isn't even important. This is about what money gives you what you really want in your life and who you can become to do what you're meant to dio. And that is what mastery is all about. So you're gonna have this this manual that you can go over and here's what you're going to need to do. I'm telling you, this is This is surface already, but I'm saying it again. It doesn't end. You're gonna need to revisit, revise and recommit. Might be every day might be every week. It might be. Every year you continue to revisit, revise, recommit, watch your life change. What's your life changed? Watch your relationship change. What? What's your life and your your whole your family and everything start to just unfold in front of you. Your business or your your job, just things to just kind of unfold in front of you and pave the path. Imagine what that would be like because you can have everything you want. It's right there for you to grab. Just need to revisit, revise and recommit. So we're gonna go through this process and I'm going to remind you of that. But I want to show you video. So this video, this is actually give you a little background here. I'm I had some people in New York approach me and they want to do a reality TV show. Now they're not the decision makers about this reality TV show, but they want to promote me, their marketing and media company so that we can do a reality show because there's so many people who have issues around money. Isn't that true? All right, it's It's a huge issue, and it's not just money. I'm gonna go show you some statistics. It's also relationships, you know, people aren't staying together. So what? I want you to look in this video. It's not about me and and seeing the demo and what I'm doing, it's about the people who are in it. Okay, focus on those people. And what I want you to notice is what are some of the patterns that they run? What are you noticing? From what they set, what they're saying? What are some of the experiencing experiences? Are they having what? Arthuis emotions? This is a key. What are the emotions? What they're experiencing, how do they feel? What would you imagine their thought process being When he's here, it comes out in their mouth. And then the last thing I want you to really pay attention to is the dynamic between the couples and start thinking about. I know you're already thinking about this. How How is this similar to me and my partner? Right. And think about that dynamic because what we're gonna go over the next three days throughout these sessions is gonna help you put all this together so that you can overcome your own money issues and and have it go together with your your partner so that you can have this life together that works. And that money. Here's what I really, really, really, really, really want to make sure that money never never is the cause of a relationship. Breaking up money will not ruin your relationship. You have control over that. If something else were ones that fine I didn't say I'm gonna teach sex sex course here like I'm not doing that. But everything is related to money. And you know that because you live it every day. So here's the video. Think about that and then we'll we'll go from there. Number one reason people get divorced is over money. So you brought me here for a reason? I'm the money marriage coach. Tell me, why did you bring me here? Money and relationships are so intertwined because money is intertwined with everything. You're a master of being bad at your money. Yes, I miss this upright. Take a risk curve otherwise, like or if we don't make it one month like it's, you know that I'm messing up. You feel like you need to be the breadwinner and you're not guilt about It was nervous energy, this building and building a building inside you. And my concern is that it's going to explode. Tell her exactly what your plan is and how you're gonna do that. Because until you have a plan and she knows that you're gonna actually implement the plan. She's still scared. You have no idea. We're gonna pay that money after you. So you're dancing around this topic and you're saying you make more money than him. Now, I want you to ask him, turn to him and say I make more money than you. Does this bother you? I make more money than you. Doesn't bother? No, It doesn't bother you, Katie, that you make more money. Yes. That's something. I wasn't thinking about it. I felt like there. There's a lot of pressure on you now to provide. I do feel pressure. I do. I don't know that I'm not convinced that you really want it badly enough is how you do anything is how you do everything. But how does it make you feel that you're not pulling in more income? Uh, well, emasculated. Have a spending problem. You need a level of financial stability or she's out the door. She's gone. She just told you, You know you couldn't do that. You can't do that. You can. The first rule of communication is to be aware of and to accept each other's money, patterns and money rolls. The only thing that you're afraid of, Matt is that Sarah's lost faith in you. It's not true. Yeah, And if you don't perform and make money, she may stop loving. Yeah, you have to tell him. Don't worry about the down dire. It's impossible to support you on our future child change to hear that strength. She's the power. Even when you miss me, honey, I'm gonna work my ass up to make sure that we are secure. Communication around your money is even more important than communicating in your day to day life with your partner. You know? And even if you don't get a job and you you've done all those things, you've taken action. What is Sarah saying about you when you're not there? How hard I'm working? She proud of you? Absolutely. The second rule is toe have a weekly money meeting at those meetings. What you need to do is first of all, you can't make any excuses. No excuses as to why you don't have enough. Why? You didn't know how much was on your card. Why? You know you didn't make enough money. The third rule is have mutual approval around your cash flow and your investments. Tell him what? What's the truth there? Crazy? I've never always gave you everything about about you has nothing to do with whether or not you can provide your my best friend. Everything you want is within reach. But you're getting in your own way. You see that? Now? She wants security, and she wants to feel a guarantee that you will always make sure that she is secure and safe. Are you gonna do that? Yes, I will. I guarantee you I will diss diss alike. And she's getting excited. And I don't mean just about security. She's getting turned on. She likes this. This She wants you to just go take her. I'm kidding. She wants you to own her in every way financially in the bedroom. She wants you to take care business. Baby owned me. And if you could just get yourself figured out and communicate that with your husband, that will get you a huge step forward. Michael, you're way too talented and smart to be acting like a child. We're gonna start with your money to get you on track so you can fix all areas of your life with me in the eyes and tell me you're not. I'm not gonna give up every day, every hour. You have to believe that. You have to know that you can do it, you know? Yes. She allowed me to tell that what I was to fit in to. Michael. Avoiding is not the answer. Robin definitely earned her money today. Finally got to the heart of the issue. Open communication. As long as we keep, that will be good to go. If you follow my rules, you can have a perfect thank you. His You. You are not alone with these issues. And these are just a few people demonstrating what's going on in the world demonstrating how how difficult it is, how how hard it is to talk about money to have that conversation. You know, some of these people, they have never talked about it like that before. I mean, you can see with some of those couples. It was obvious it was like the first time they heard it. Because we're not open about money. It's this taboo subject. So I have a nice gift for you. When you get the course, you'll get this book. Um, John Marie. When she introduced me, she said, My first book coming out, which I'll talk about in a second. Um, this is actually I didn't plan it, but I was writing a book. Okay, I'll tell you, Sharing mentioned it's called the money menage a twat. And I like that title. And, uh and I started writing it. But then I ended up writing this before I finished that one. So this is my first book. It's called How to Overcome your Money issues Toe have a richer relationship and what's really great and you're really, really lucky is that you get this not only this book and the manual and all that, but all of this is gonna be taught in the course. So you're gonna learn, you know most. But I should say, because it's a lot of information, but you're gonna learn about how to overcome your own own money issues, and that's gonna be really this first day in these first few sessions, and then you're also gonna learn how to have a richer relationship. So I'm very excited about that. And as as I mentioned, I keep saying I'm gonna keep bringing up mastery. Um, one thing I learned from Bob Proctor, who he was. Ah, he's known for being in the secret. He's done a lot more than that, but he's known for being in the secret, and he's ah, he went from like he was making $4000 I think, a year to going 275,000 to goingto million's per year. So he had huge jumps, and he he said the reason he did so well is because he had the book thinking grow rich. He read that book and let me tell you this. He did not read it once he read it over and over and over again. So what's great about you having access to this course is that you can read this over and over again. You can do these exercises over and over again. You can watch the videos over and over again, so you have the opportunity just like Bob Proctor to keep making things better. So as I mentioned the next book that's coming out, it's not out yet, But it's going to be exciting anticipation. It may happen, and early next year is called the Money menage a twat. So I came up with this idea because what I realized was that you you have this money menage a twat. This money menage a twat exists. And what do I mean by that? What I mean by that is that there's a relationship between you and your money that exists, obviously, but people don't think of it as a relationship, right? They think like I have money or I don't or, you know, I know I kind of messed things up about my money sometimes where I don't know how to manage money, Whatever their beliefs are about money, which we're going to get into throughout this course, they know that, but they don't really think of it as a relationship. So for a second, I want you to think about, like, if money were a person, this isn't one of the bonuses. This is a question. One of the most bonuses. If if money were a person, what would that relationship be like between you two? Are you lovers? Are you friends? You know we're good. We're good. You know, I like money on the school, But you know I love money Or are you a tease. You know, you're like, Oh, I like money. Hey, money, come here. Money, and then you like, I don't want you any more money. Are you? So afraid you're gonna lose it, that you push it away? Think about that. What is your relationship with money? And I promise you, most likely if you realize what that relationship is, you will see that money is treating you back. Basically, based on how you're treating it, if you push money away, take a bite out of money, right? We treated well. You pay attention to it in this course, we're going to go over how you pay attention to your money, how important it is to pay attention to your money, what you can do with your, like what kind of system you can have in place. I'm gonna give you my system, the system that I teach only to my private clients who pay a lot of money to work with me. And I'm gonna teach that to you. So you have the system and know how to pay attention to your money when to pay attention to your money. What specifically to dio? So I'm very excited for you to get all this so you have this relationship with your money, and then also, if you're in a romantic relationship or you've been in a romantic relationship or you want to be in a romantic relationship that exists, that triangle exists that menage a twat exists now. You can have it ruin your relationship, or you can have it enhance your relationship. So let's look at what's going on with marriages today. What's happening with money and relationships. You know this. I'm sure you've heard this 50% of marriages in America and in divorce. I don't know the stats around the world, but I'm sure it's around that number, if not more, right? Some people think it's like a lot higher than that. It's a lot. It's high. That's that is an issue. We've gotten so used to it that were like, Oh yeah, oh yeah, divorce, whatever. Like it's no big deal, but that's a big deal. One in two marriages are ending in divorce. Guess what? Not a surprise here. The number one cause of divorce is money shocked, right? Most people have heard that most people know that most people have experienced that so This is a major major issue. There was a study done. The researchers name is Sonya Britt. It's called examining the relationship between money and divorce and what she found. This is surveying 4500 people. She found that arguments about money are by far the top predictor of divorce. Now look at this. It's not Children. It's not sex in laws or anything else. It is money for both men and women. Let's stop ignoring this, Please. There's a solution. It's right here and you're in the right place because you have the solution and you're about to get all that information. Look at this. Roughly 3/4 of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck with little to no emergency savings. The good news is you're not alone like I know someone like that. That's May. The bad news is emergencies happen, right? Things that are unexpected happen. But don't worry. We have great role models. Check this out. You know this number. I'm gonna read it to you. It's a big one. 17 trillion, 555 1,000,000, 437 million. 713,000. I'm still going and $940. That is a big number now. We don't We can't even conceptualize. I mean, it sounds big, sure, but we can even can't even conceptualize like What does that mean? So let me give you a little example. Here, a $1,000,000 is four inches high. This is stacked of $1000 bills. A $1,000,000 is four inches high. Ah, $1,000,000,000 is 365 feet high. Okay, I say that again. A $1,000,000 is four inches. Height is $1000 bills. Now, if we did $100 bills or $1 bills is gonna be a lot bigger. But just to get an idea, a $1,000,000 is four inches high. A $1,000,000, is 365 feet high. That's a 1,000,000,000 a trillion dollars. Look at this exponential growth here. miles fine, by the way, that's one trillion. One trillion. Multiply that by 17. It's a big number. I'm not even gonna do that. Math. If you lived, I'm gonna give you one more here. If you live to be 80 years of age to have a $1,000, you would have had to save $34 a day of your every day of your life. Okay, 80 years you lived to your 80 every single day of your life, you would have had to save $34 a day to have a $1,000,000 tohave a $1,000,000,000. You would have to save 34 $1000 each day of your life. Are you ready for this? Oh, yeah, for a trillion dollars. Guns are not drumroll. Please. You would have to save $34 million. $34 million. $34 million each day of your life. Multiply that by as a big number. What number is this? Do you know the national us of a baby? US debt. As of April you are role models. Sorry, government. But how are we supposed to be good at our money when you're not? How How are we supposed to manage our money when you don't talking to you? Government? How are we supposed to learn how to do this? When are governments not even doing it? This is what we're learning now. People say all the time. Well, how come money is not taught in school, right? That's good question. Right? Right, Right. That's good question. Why? Why is it money talking school? Well, because they don't know how to teach it. They're not rich. They're not wealthy. They got the government to do some things that they don't know what they're doing. This is a major issue. Now, you can just be one of the statistics and be like everyone else and not have an emergency fund and not know how to deal with your money and break up and get divorced. You can do that. But please, please don't cause you have a choice. You have a choice, and you are here to to now put yourself in in choice to take over this issue. Not just for yourself, because imagine who you're gonna impact every single person when you change. When you become this amazing person, that's it's not about money. Be responsible taking care of what's important taking care of your Children. It's not about money. It's about your wife. Is about this country, this world, what you can do to make a difference. That's what money is all about. Or whatever it means to you. We're gonna go into that. What does money mean to you? Why is it important? You're gonna get all that very soon