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The Future of Habits: David Goldstein

We'll be speaking with David Goldstein, who's a good friend of mine. He, uh he's been using the Pavlak respond in the padlock app in the Padlock System and Accountability Group to come together and kind of helped change his habits. I'm gonna show you a quick video that David made. David is a really, really interesting person. He spent a lot of time unhealthy in his twenties, and I'll let him tell his story. But, um, let's go ahead and just watch a quick video. Hi, my name is David Goldstein. I'm hoping to use Pat like to get me into better exercise routine. I am a cancer survivor. I've had a heart attack. I was in a wheelchair for a while and I still some paralysis in both legs. As you can see, I've put on a great deal. Wait, I have very little muscle definition of my arms, and I'm hoping that Pablo can help me address all of those issues. Where have been coming every single day for the past seven days to do my tight? She and some resistance exercises like pull ups and push ups just ge...

tting out here Moving is made me want to eat better is becoming much more automatic for me. I don't even have to think about coming out here. I am at 65 days out of the past 70 woman of using the padlock system. I am down £7. My arms have gotten noticeably stronger and my legs are actually shrunk. They've been since I was paralyzed in 2001. My kids more theme of the day, You know, I could do more stuff throughout the day, can help out more around the house, which, you know, my wife loves and it's been fantastic. It's now just part of who I am and what I do. I really was cannot cannot physically go a day without doing some kind of intensive, strenuous activity regardless of what it iss great. And, um and David is actually here to speak with us. I haven't spoken in a while, so I'm excited to talk to you. Hey, David Heymann, he says, is going very well. Man. It's good to see you. How are you doing? I'm doing role. I'm doing well. Thank you. Are you in New York right now in Queens? Yes, I am. And my baby is supposed to be asleep, but she's crawling around. So if I have to go out of frame for a moment, I hope you'll excuse me. No. No worries. Thank you so much for taking the time to be here with us. Uh, man, it's a pleasure to talk to you. It's always awesome to speak with you. I love when I get to speak with you because you are one of people who have really taken pavlak take our system and taken our advice and really used it in a very cool way. And it's actually honored toe. Have you Have you want on team minutes? It's Thanks a lot, man. Uh, do you mind telling us a little bit about about what you've been doing? Tell us about your background? Uh, yeah, sure. So, as mentioned in the video, I was diagnosed with spinal cord cancer when I was 21. My two operations was paralyzed for a while. I learned how to walk again. Then a few years after that, very separately, I had a heart attack in 2000 and eight. Um, and it was basically I could never really find any kind of system that had me working out to the point where I was really back to any kind of minimal level of health. Eso really wasn't until, you know, I think I do. You and I met a man. You introduced me Teoh Padlock System and got me going with that that I really got for the first time. It's a since you know I was 20 on sentiment has actually led to me being healthy. I've had a couple of crises A Z, and I've discussed since I've been on the padlock system, and they've both been much more manageable. I feel that they have been fast just because I had a system already in place to cope with just such a thing. Um, and I've really considering what I've been through, you know, it's really doing great. So I think since that last video of lost another £7 so I think I'm down £14 overall since you first started to do you look really good. That's what Israel we met through a friend of ours, Josh Klein, whose actual fascinating story himself, he he is well known for a study where he trained Ravens and crows toe to find quarters and two deposited into machines in exchange for food. And he was able to train them to essentially give him money. And all he did was reward them with food. And he I said to him, I said that like what? You think Pavalock is an interesting idea and he told me like, Yeah, it's cool. I'd love to see how it works on a friend of mine. I have a friend who would love to try it out, and that was you. And you seem to be one of the few people who just heard the idea just like, Yeah, let's do it. Let's make this happen. Um, yeah, Tell us. Tell us about your micro habit. I know you started off back in. I guess it must have been six months or so ago, right? Eso initially it was going to be just going to get my gym card swiped each morning. But when you and I the first morning I tried to put that into place, I went to my gym, found out it had shut down eso you and I talked and we decided the micro action instead, I was going to me be just waking up in the morning, putting it on my gym clothes and taking a single step outside of my apartment building. That was it. Um, And three. What? The Lord? Your action, we hope, would take places. I would go to the local park and do body resistance exercises and Tiki And that actually worked out great. I never had a problem doing that in it. Um, you know, just about became really part of ourselves. My daily life. So what? What was it like the first couple weeks when you got started? When you started off Your first few weeks Getting out in the in your gym clothes. I love you. Get the padlock on right now. Uh uh. When you when you got started, you started walking out in your gym clothes. How did you feel? A Soon as you left the first few days, it was It was It was really hard Man on. And I think the really saving grace from it. Waas The refrain ahead of my brain was the whole time. Waas, you're not a failure. You've already got your clothes on. You've already taken Step out the door. You can go home. You can go back, You could go back to bed. You can go lay down. Just, you know. Come on, man, just one more step. Let's just keep this moving. If you have to go back, though, you could go back any time you want on. And I found that took an enormous amount of burden and stress off of me because I just always had that toe. Hold on, do that. Any time I wanted, I could just stop it that I could just go back home. And it really helped make the whole thing help A lot easier to pick up on just about everything else I tried over the past 13 or 14 years. Yeah, one of things that David did so well is he just accepted that that, like, you can just get started. It's like it's the true belief that it can work, that I think that was really cool from what you did. Ah, lot of people don't believe it will work. And then, of course, it doesn't work when they don't get the first step out the door because they, they're able t shoot themselves in the foot in the mind. It's really interesting. And on your in your from the first phone call we had. It was a different feeling on the phone call. It was like, Oh, yeah, This sounds perfect. This is exactly what I need. I just just just go outside and all we gotta do is step out there and I'll probably make it. And you made it there. And you started focusing on doing Tai Chee White, Aichi and Hodge of Coach. How did it work? Yes. So the tiki I decided on because I saw have some paralysis in both legs and I solve problems balancing. And I figure fall would be really devastating for me to take some time. And tighty was really wonderful As far as building back up like strength and really establishing my sense of kind of, you know, where I was and really giving my sense of balance backs. That's really what kind of embraced tiki at the time and, you know, have kept up with that. And I have ah Tai Chee teacher who I would have been working with once a week. Who we meet Mattson Park and he's been over the moon thrilled with all the progress I've made. So tell me about Tiki. Actually, I'm fascinated by itself. I go to a gym. It's power lifting gym. It's also a tiki Jim, and I see tight she happening. I don't understand exactly the motion of the moves, and I understand it's a very healing art. Tell us a little about what type she is, right? So the basically the essence of what you're trying to do to with Tiki, I think, as opposed to a lot of physical movement, is Tucci's very invested in kind of unifying the mind, your emotional state, your mental state with your breath and using that as a pathway into the body with attention to the movement so that movements could be very strenuous. But the entire time you are not really kind of like pushing yourself or shoving yourself. You're tryingto let the movements happened very organically and almost like of their own volition. So it's a really good way to kind of combine meditation with actual like it could be very straining with physical movement, Um, and because of lighters up very nicely, because you can dio all the more vigorous activities it allows for that kind of stepwise progression that typical Jim exercise give you two. So you started working on Tai Chee, And I recall your first few weeks You were focusing on the exercise and I told you, just don't even think about nutrition. Eat whatever you want. That's the point. Like the point is to get one habit forming at a time. And you mentioned to me that yes, you were hitting your goals of the fitness, but you were failing on the nutrition aspect has have things changed. Yeah, things changed rather dramatically. Just at some point, it just hit me. I was like, Man, you are You are doing this daily activity, and it's awesome, but you're cutting the legs out of it by eating poorly. Um and so it was this really nice kind of cascading effect where I just wanted to eat better because I wanted to experience the full benefits of all the activity that that I was doing. So it was not necessarily something I focused on. It was almost something that just started up on its own. And I know you're doing it. You doing a vegan diet right now? Is that right? I'm doing a vegan diet non with no no oils added, but I've added in egg whites together. Yeah, great. I said, I think that you have a few surgeries that you're waiting on for your heart, and that has to do with That's the reason you chose if you can diet. Is that right? Yeah, Exactly. The particular kind of vegan diet I'm on right now has been shown to reverse heart disease. That's the problem I have right now is my heart really likes to make blockages. So I was telling data was like, Come on, man, don't worry about it. I'm sure that you just need a had some high fat throw some butter on your steak and have you got to go is like, I have to have surgery on my heart. And maybe I should just do what the literature says in this case. And I'm like, you know what? Actually go vegan finished surgeries and, well, maybe move it up that way. Let's start off slow, David. It's awesome that you're working on this. I'd love to know. Are you still keeping up with your tiki? Are you doing? I think you're taking a break for a period of time while you were doing your surgeries. Is that right? Yeah. I needed to take a short break to Kate. Take care of the surgeries. Surgeries are now wrapped up. What they actually have asked me to do, though, is dude intensive. Cardio eso I've started back up at the gym on and I've s I've reinstituted now. My micro actual is getting gym card swiped. I think I have 12 days straight now. I hate Yeah, it's good. Unfortunately, over the weekend I broke my foot, but I think it's really interesting. Even melon back on crutches and everything. I still feel that pulled my desire to get the card swipe, some really confident that wants from fully healed up. It won't be any problem at all. Kicking back up, you know, we had a few pavalock users and hack the habit users who were who were in the same situation. They were doing a seven minute daily workout and they ended up at the end of the workout that one person was in a wheelchair. He had an accident or something and had to be in a wheelchair for, like, three months. And he said what he did was he still did a seven minute workout, but it wasn't strenuous, wasn't hard, and he would use on the arms. And if you didn't have the ability to use his arms, he would just, like, lift his arms for for seven minutes. But the idea was to keep that that period of time, that's seven minutes focused in his day. That was the same. That kept it up. So when he got out of the wheelchair, he was right back in the habit, no questions asked. So that's always something you can think about. If you having trouble The broken foot. Which man? That's rough. You can always do some kind of motion or some kind of indication to yourself that this is the motion of you going to the gym. You're putting on a gym, clothes thinking off whatever can help keep you there. So are you working on any other habits? Are you sticking? Are you working? Have you noticed any other ripple effects outside of just diet and nutrition? I mean those air to absolutely for me, really huge habits because they have been absolutely the bane of my existence for 14 years now, and they've gone from being one of the most difficult things and stressful things, like counter on a daily basis to almost something I don't even have to think about, which is beyond fantastic on dso some of the other habits. You know, I really I would like to pick up our things. Like learning how to code and other things like that. I think would be great for my career on, but I really kind of want to spill out it into And I think this is a great system for applying Teoh getting all that involved in my life. Great, man. I'll make sure to get you one of the early access is to our to our app where we allow you to commit to using code school to train programming languages So you can set that as a habit. Padang commitments earn points when you do it, etcetera. But David Hey. Ah, it's great talking to you. I'd love to know if you have any advice. Oh, hi. She was pulling on my leg. What name? Eyes, Gemma. She's eight months high drama. Oh, so cute. They'll little pavlak right there. It actually she bites her every time she sexual Tom, just kidding? Uh, smiling. Oh, gosh, I can focus on is a cute baby. What recommendations do you have for anybody getting started trying out path locker wanting to form you have it? Oh, yeah. Well, we'll start harmonies. I think it's younger than 12 months. We can't electrocute that. You know what? She passes that threshold. Um, I think the biggest thing is that is that the concept of micro action is just extremely powerful. And I think to a certain extent, it's something you just have to have a bit of faith. It sounds inconsequential to do something like giving your gym cards white, because it sounds so easy, Teoh, you know, do that and then not do anything else. But this just not the case there really powerful there. It's like a keystone. You pull it out and everything else falls down around, it s Oh, I really would just say kind of keep the faith and see what happens. That's great, David, Thank you so much for taking the time with meeting soon and keep it up, man. Germany's all right. I get you some grass fed butter talks. Yeah, David is an amazing story. He he really did take Pavalock and use it in a way that is, it's mind blowing and he talks about about keeping the faith. And it's it's really it's really important that you understand that that micro habit sounds crazy and it is a little bit crazy that you would just go in swipe a card, and that would lead to any kind of long lasting effects. But it really does forming this process habit four minutes have it focused on the on the step by step procedure. The idea that you don't have to win, you just have to go can can lead to really, really lasting results. 90% of success truly is showing up, he said, something that was interesting about, um, about keeping about keeping the faith. He also said something about high intensity workouts, which is cool. I think that he would benefit a lot from minute athlete. David's really cool. He's a really smart guy and he is Ah, he's really like paving the way for people who are starting to do work with Pavlak. Uh, it's really great to see how small changes can make big results, and I hope that you that you will have learned a little bit from from micro habits and from the story. Um, so I'm very interested, actually. Knowing from people who are sitting the audience based on on what we've been thinking about based on the micro habits that we've been talking about. What's the micro habit If you had to choose one that you want to form, Um, let's start off with with Mark. Yeah, Um, Emily and I were talking about this yesterday, so my habit I wanted to form was writing every day on DSO. The micro habit was writing just one sentence and the environment change was actually leaving my laptop outside of my laptop so that when I woke up in the morning and I had to pick it up, it would just I would be primed and triggered. Teoh do that. One sentence. Do you mean it's Is it a physical journal? Or it's in Evernote and Evernote. So you're gonna leave it open already, or What do you mean? Um, no, just if it's outside of my back back then I need to pick up my laptop anyways to pack up for the day. And so then I'm triggered to open up the laptop. Evernote will be open and I'll just write one sentence. Great. Have you thought about any kind of commitment you're going to make? Are you thinking about doing Ah, commitment or a bet? Yeah. I'm still figuring that out. Put Definitely. We were thinking about It's always worth doing it just for one day and saying like all right, tomorrow I'm gonna write one page in a journal. I'll have it done before I use any other website. Or else I'll pay 50 bucks or whatever and even 10 bucks and just see what happens. Because the trick is you got to do once. Otherwise that happen. Just kind of slipped out of your mind. Yeah, I definitely think about it right down. When you're ready. Science, I'll take your money. Um, And, uh, What about you, Rice? Have you thought of any micro habits you're gonna work on? Yeah. So the biggest habit that I've wanted to work on through this whole thing has been developing a morning routines. Motor Emily. Um and so I would love to be able. Teoh, focus on. I mentioned mentioned earlier that I've done a gratitude journal before but I have fallen out of it. So I'd love to be able to wake up and then just write down one thing that I'm thankful for us. A micro habit in the morning. It's great. You definitely five minute journalist, great resource here to try out Teoh. It's worth getting, Um, it's really, really simple. It just simplifies the process. Um, yeah, let's do one more April. Do you have any micro habits that you're thinking about implementing? Like the Gratitude journal? Um, it occurred to me. I think I heard once somebody suggested doing a gratitude alphabet when you're falling asleep. But give your having hard time falling asleep, you go through a B C D. And you think of one thing that starts with each of those letters that you really feel grateful for, and you have toe really feel the feeling of gratitude. Um, and I did that for a period of time, but I want to get back into that because you usually fall asleep very quickly if you're in a state of gratitude and you know, that's really interesting. I never heard that. That's ah, a lot of things to be grateful for. X Rays. Um, that's awesome. It's Ah, it's great to be here with all you got to see the people working out actually learned a lot from you. I didn't always think about how people don't right now. You mentioned that we were discussing the micro habits, and we have how planning out your day deeply. Your morning routine can't just be breakfast. It has to be step by step. Which way you're walking. It could make a It can make a big difference. And not everyone understands how deep it you need you should get and building on micro habits. It's really it's really ah, process of applying like the most autumn. The more the more you can define, the more you can automate. So when you say I want to wake up and the first thing I will do is reach over and hit my snooze button and I would get up and walk to the bathroom and brush my teeth. And then I will take a floss and flaws and making sure that it's written in a path that you can follow. Um, it's it's great to learn from you as well that sometimes I need to simplify the message or really delved deep into into the change for each individual person, something that you know you live in a lens of. I live in a lens of habits so often that's all I think about all day, every day that I don't realize other people don't live in the same lens, so it's cool to see that.