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What Do You Know To Be True?

So when it comes to exploration, I honestly don't think that there's anything more important than our truth. So right away, we're just we're just diving in. What do you know? To be true? What you believe way down deep in your bones. What are the life lessons that you've already learned? Okay, so let's do this stream of consciousness style again. No censoring, no stopping to think. It's, just what comes to you and I could start you off to show you what I I have five random things that I know to be sure. Okay, number one wearing black is never any fun. That's what I know to be true if that is not a judgment with people who only wear black. Amen. And hallelujah I with that. That just seems like a much easier life, but that is not what I know to be true to being called weird or different or unique is the best compliment you could get. That's what I know to be true green number three grilled cheese sandwiches are often better than lobster that's. What I know to be true, especially if they'r...

e on rye bread with tomato and there's, a pickle on the side and there's some really crispy french fries, sweet potato french fries, food for its possible all of it I know that to be true number five there's no such thing as failing just learning that's what I know to be true so we're going to spend, like the next half hour creating our own manifestos based on our truth and I'd love to get some markers out here in the in the studio audience get to writing and here's some examples so there's company called holst e dot com and I have a feeling anyone that lives on the internet like we do have seen this forty seven million times you know, this is unbelievably perfect brilliant amaze balls manifesto for this company and you could see these air their beliefs these air their beliefs and there are some opinions wrapped in these beliefs so they're not all fax their universal truth this is your life do what you love and do it often is if you don't like something, change it if you don't like your job quit if you don't have enough time's up watching tv if you're looking for the love of your life stop they will be waiting for you when you start doing things you love on and on and on and on um I obviously relate to this life is about the people you meet, the things you create with them, so go out and start creating life is short lived your dream and share your passion and actually for those of you in new york city I'm going to teach a effective escape workshop at holst e at the end of october that you could go and sign up for it right now here's another example um this is puddy like dot com slash shop is where you'll find this poster party like is a must must must must must sight like must read must subscribe must must must sight for all of us renaissance souls it is specifically about being a multi passionate person emily is the leader behind it but they always have just wonderful block contributors and different offerings they have their own community there so you know it's great like I all want you to join the dream career creators that when I grow up cooks dot com slash creative live but it seems like everyone has their own community these days so if there's someone online that you resonate with that offers their own community I know carried shape in who's an instructor here has her own community emily a putty like has the community filled with multi passionate people that might be a really great spot for you so you can see here oh my gosh so representative of the beliefs of a multi passionate person every child could sing every child can draw every child believes they could be a doctor or an astronaut whatever happens to most people when they grow up didn't happen to you you still want to do everything you've a new passion every week and you wonder what is wrong with you? Nothing is wrong you are who you were meant to be on and on and on I love this we're not mad we're not lazy we're not confused or aimless we are multi potential lights raise it, sing it sister uh this is the expert enough manifesto, right? Here's that word enough that we talked about the sexual trigger word that like, comes up all the time in our vampire voices and yet we don't really know what it means. We have no idea what it represents the expert enough manifesto we're all capable of so much more than we think. Most people never scratched the surface of what they're capable of expertise is relative experts t's doesn't come from a piece of paper that sums up what we're talking about right now. Life is richest when we become good at a lot of different things know it all jill of all trades and renaissance man are compliments life is an experiment you don't need to wait for permission and you don't need anyone else to grant new status it's not about being the world's greatest expert it's about being expert enough to accomplish your goals, the more used creativity, the more you get brilliance lies within each of us go now live play explore follow your passion if that's a word that you resonate with learn more do more be more manifesto right? So we're building our manifesto based on our own troops our own lessons, our own facts of life this one I love so much because amy of artsy ville artsy ville dot com I drew this for me doodled it for me a few years ago and she like interviewed me for a siri's on her blogged and she took my answers and made it into this like gorgeous one she that she called the accent fax of michelle ward the when I grow up coach and she and she made it kind of actor glee with my background so it says full time creative coach who starts her day with a dose of judge judy plays a pink ukulele named lucille graduated a year early from anyone used to school of the arts for musicals theater serve pie at her wedding we're talking about pie some grilled cheese with tomato on rye makes everything better I love group she's you guys fashion idol eagles punky brewster on and on and on and on sense of humor of a fourteen year old boy my favorite movie is billy madison that is the truth on dh sanity relies on weekly bubble bath with shan him playlist and glass of wine so this isn't like necessarily my truth these air just things about the important parts of my story here and this gorgeous doodle so for those of you at home or in front of computers or have like really great illustrative talents that could open up illustrator and photo shop and amen and hallelujah create something that looks you know like this or like this or I had one that I wasn't able to show but it was just you know, it was just someone's handwriting that just wrote the thing and just like the handwriting was nice and that works too but please like go nuts create what you want but for those of us here and I see you've already found the spot in the workbook we're supposed to do this I want to write down your truth and do it in any sort of way that you want to design it so that it looks nice and no uh who was it? I think it was gen went home yesterday and made of values postcard that was different than what you made here in the studios to know you could always kind of go back to it but we want to hear what you're writing down what are your lessons? What do your true's what is it that you know to be true for you? We want to hear that in the chat to so everyone chime on and what I want to dio has just make like a crazy fantastic amaze balls I want to get too I think fifteen today stacey I think we could do that and I think our he might already be there ok er and I just want to I want to write what I hear I want to do like a collaborative manifesto for the group so actually you know what stacy come on up and write down whatever you're writing down right now write down one saying wanna weighing one thing yes one thing are you sure? Yes. I'm positive a truth truth of important thing about you a belief there's no right or wrong answers just own what it is you've learned from life or you know mine is like I talk about grilled cheese sandwiches that's thanks to me well then I'm gonna put it what I was gonna put okay do it she's writing about potatoes you guys ah potatoes never fails I love them potatoes never fails I think music's monstrous I'd love to have different uh different colors for up here. Kate will grab that for me. I think I think you've done so where did you say I can give you an explanation if you want please I love it so friends of mine we recently went to cancun in july yeah, we thought that it was gonna be super awesome and we try different things at the resort some things were good something's weren't but the potatoes no matter how they were, they were always good mashed potatoes, whatever form. So we just have potatoes. Never feel I love it. I love it. See that's your truth potatoes never say how many potatoes like that could be another one that could be part of your manifesto. Who's going out next. Then I see something. You're right and come on up with your marker fearful come on, bring the stage company. I'm afraid of it now. I do trip a lot, but I wasn't right there. Uh, it's okay to trip a lot. Okay, okay. You're like that. What are you gonna write? Um, all right. The next movie, I can't wait to hear what you guys are writing. I think gonna be the coolest thing ever. And obviously for anyone that drew a lot underlined what was the other thing I can like? Go back in name all these times that, um, so I was going to write like desks are my prison o guy hating locked in chaillot? Please, please, please, please. And for those of you who are doing this at home and you guys could do this tonight, go to the client work button on the course page and upload your manifestoes. When they're done we want to see them deaths or my pres and behind my love and doodles and we're designing it this is gonna be like a big lovely mess ok joanne come on up come on up with your marker your purple marker um or pig one from right here fantastics x no, not original it's a phrase I know that's ok? It doesn't need to be from your own head it could be a quote that really speaks to you it could be something you red amongst right we've come up with these munch is right why not me? Why not now those things we could talk about ah uh wei will open when I get out of my own away yes. Where did you hear that before it's way will open its a quaker phrase I will open when I got in my own way is a take off fantastic thank you thank you for bringing that in brilliant brilliant who else did anybody writing bring it up here ok she's already do something about crafting I can't handle it is it about working in groups? It isn't but it's going to be family is more than a blood relation right it's not the best segment ever this is my job, you guys this is my job this right here is my job I still pinch myself a lot if I could do this you could do anything family is more than a bloody lovely I love it I love it jennifer come on we need to have a pen already know here here here come we haven't gotten any red in here so so get him on the red ah ah I'm gonna cry my kids are my greatest teachers don't know what the last word was gonna be teachers treasures and words that all works any t word my kids are my greatest gorgeous gorgeous couldn't get up here miss jasmine quiet anything happening in the chat yet jasmine right waiting to see some of it is interesting people got really annoyed when you talk about potatoes because I said they always wanted to do that first during that absolutely but yeah we definitely see your colleges on up close to the calories but before then we want to hear just think that all makes make it up just great and tristan's after saying I deserve great things that why not me I like that one thank you I think the people need teo you won't die in the swamps of sadness anyone gets movie reference I won't die yeah where's the never ending story oh uh horse in the swamp of oh my god, you won't die in the swamp oh my god, I need to watch that movie oh, jen, you haven't come up here you read it is a room on the board? Yes, could you right in between. We want to make this like we wanted just fill this page uh don't want to go to a new page winterbourne is saying it's no fun being normal yes. Oh that's a great one. Um that's what people say that I'm weird. I'm like thank you thank you. Let me do it. Thank you, soo's mescal I think it's max solo suze mac solo says a messy room means it's time to change things up thanks. Fancy speeches make me smile inside that's your happy place that's dreaming place that's fantastic. You just make me smile inside nicole, you don't come up here yet, right one. So you, joe I was stuck on this one. I don't know. I'll put the one that I have. Okay, it was the one that you have and then what needs to happen is a stream of consciousness. Um, if you're familiar with the artist's way artist way morning pages like we need to transfer that teo here. So write this down now while I tell you to later to get there it's the artist's way you fill up three pages every morning and you don't have your pen leave paige literally right, I have nothing to write about today I am sinking costing my coffee's in a white mud the sun is out I'm wearing blue I don't know what to write I hate this thing and then eventually you get something or not but you still you know kind of come up with your creative time and talked into something dance like no one is watching that's a great quote that speaks to a lot of people um so you know if you want to just jot down what I know to be true what would I tell people if I had a right? Maybe this is a good question too if I had a fighter right? Ten things that I believe uh danielle import whom I just adore such little fangirl daniel reports she asked a really great question that's always stuck with me that if the national news calls you right in five minutes and says we've a spot tonight we've two minutes and the coal we want you to come on and talk about whatever you want what would you what would you want the country to know? Uh uh no, not pressure, not pressure but like what is like what is it you want? What is it you want to tell yourself, what is that you would tell other people about who you are? What is it you'd want someone to know about you right away so I you know I love like I put in my bio about my you know ukulele playing in my judge judy obsession and something we haven't talked about but I have a breast cancer survivor and put that in my bio and so you know all of these things make up like this is what I this is who I am sort of when people know about me and grocery sandwiches and colors and fun and all that other stuff uh anything else online I want to add some of our online people um to do oh yeah here we are traveling artisan is saying creative is my happy place great one from pink princess who says be yourself everybody else's take that's a great quote on rescue girl is saying everything will be okay in the end it's not okay it's not the end ha writing that whole thing down everything will be okay harry at the end uh as I'm rating guys call out what else you're writing I want to hear it I put don't say yes up front oh don't say yes upfront yeah that's something that like I remind myself of because it's easy tio I guess yeah are just say yes because you just want to help for whatever but huh sometimes you need to think it over and decide in what capacity uh I want to add to that huh don't take no for an answer so I don't know for an answer that this might be my favorite one so far I think it's minke san seven I might not be saying that right? But anyway there saying normal is just a setting on the washing machine e normal a setting on a washing machine you and paula j says simply you won't know if you don't try uh amen and hollow leah um you know, I think we could help to nicole azem raining I'm thinking um you know, the five random things that I that I put up I took from a post of mine and it was like thirty five things I learned in thirty five years I wrote it on the thirty fifth birthday, so if you want to think in that way like here's x amount of things that I've learned in this many years and then like you have to have a philip thirty five of so they all couldn't be like the most amazing things grilled cheese sandwiches and punky brewster and you know everything else so we don't have to be super serious mind blowing or shattering it's just like here the things I know here, the things I've learned and this amount of times that help yeah, yes good okay good way to think of that take the pressure off yeah, maybe something about how if it's not scary it's not worth doing something to that effect I don't know how you know um if it's not scary exciting could we could we bring in my favorite I just make you nervous cited e it doesn't this is the same color that's no good we're not gonna see it if it doesn't make you nervous sided it's not worth doing right amen that same colors that I'm fine that's fine I have one that helps me smiles make the happy come I want that right that's that's like inside out I think feeling better and I think you know yesterday we had uh feature really quickly on someone who does a laughter therapy like so interesting you nervous excited I've got a special request to read this one out from comedy gumball machine they say always look for the good side of the pumpkin of the punk and I really want to hear how that how that came to be like I feel like there is such a good story there right? What was it always look at the good side of the good side of the pump from also from traveling artisan who says trying doesn't do it doing it does it who I love that that's a good take on do you want to do? There is no try right my husband would be so proud you're welcome luke here welcome I look that good the gungan and the same in michigan is saying listen to your gut I just have lunch so don't listen to michio trust me on this one here that I mean don't you see how universal these air to like? I feel like you know this could just help all of us like a bunch of whole you know, creative, multi passion people this right here everything that's here which is why please upload your work to the client work uh part of the course page and put it on facebook and on twitter and share it with the dream career life hashtag how you guys do I love jenny what you have written because you like could you show it off for us? Hey, talk us through it things were really weird wait wait just weird right? Weird is oh it's not up here but weird is a compliment and whatever yeah yeah so I have my centres crafting is super important to me, huh? And I have vegetarian for life um oh the family wine I wrote I'm really good at croce here on and live by the hook die by the hook I wrote it makes everything better no one knows I love beer and let's go to the park let's always be going to the park that I just I left the car my daughter loves the park we go there one, two, three times a day I know I'll be fun when it's cold out but it's fantastic you're including your favorite place here including your favorite drink your including what you know you do the best what's important to you our effects anyone else sees a way like this one I've seen on pinterest saltwater makes everything better tears sweat in the ocean ha ha have that print at home yeah that's amazing mmm two great awesome coming from cam e that comey says it's okay to say no but they also say I'm not weird I'm gifted e anyone else have anything they want to show off johannes like right in a way and also pretty yeah yeah I have another one toe add which is kind is more than it kind is more important than right oh I like that right now I'm like you got you guys got on things okay let's see um it will change bizarre is the compliments yes I like that just one word yes with an exclamation point uh normal is just the setting on the logic mission e and I love it everything will be okay in the end if it's not okay it's not the end so taking inspiration from what we've heard here this is fantastic so how does this really how does this relate to the things that we've been uncovering? No, you don't see any religion that what we've been covering nothing most like their resume that we made with the mad lives a little bit um and it's, it is very it's, like a reminder of the things that make you kind of sparkle inside so that you can grab it to keep gravitating back towards them. Thank you. Welcome. Oh, my god! I thought I was lost all of you there, thankfully jasmine. So with e mean, like this is the core of who we are and what's important to us and what we know and what our choose our and so you know everything, everything we do is just another piece of the puzzle. It's another piece of the puzzle which is just really exciting and were able to use it as a compass, we're able to use it to guide us. So if we come across it job thing that like, goes against what we know to be true goes against our manifesto doesn't feel right, um doesn't fit in with what makes us authentic and it's important to us than we know that that's not the right thing for us, it was really important there any been any questions coming in for the chat? Honestly, I thought this would take a little longer and we got sometime way have had questions community, you know, feel free to toe ask questions, particularly about this segment, all you need to do is click the ask button you're seen next to the right of the video feed you can also check out questions that have been asked and you can vote on them so we'd love to hear from some more. So let us get some questions coming in and going it's interesting what people say comedy campbell did machine to explain about that pumpkin? Yes, hopefully is only they were saying that when you carve a pumpkin you always look for the right side same thing basically is putting your best foot forward or kind of like a christmas tree when you hang out, you always try and look for the right right side to face out. Uh it's great and the kohl did you get some other stuff down there? A few other things down I am their kind of random um fit is a lifestyle, not just the body type. Wait, you say that again, please without apologizing by a tone of voice if it is a life, not just think yeah that's better that's better why the apology? I don't know, I don't know. I think this is silly. No, I think it's hard uh why is it hard? I don't know, I maybe I'm still learning truth uh write that down, please I'm still learning my truth, learning my jennet yes, I'm still learning like you have you go back to our last segment on the pie people still I think a bit confused on where they came out and it michelle case just basically asking what does it mean when you get a different result on the furnace personality scale every time you take the test she's the only dichotomy that she could take aways that that really shares a strong introverted nous okay sure is the world but it does that happen when you keep coming out differently um I hope I hope she means like not on the same day like if she keeps retaking it and every day like the same day she comes out differently than that it's a little strange but yeah like europe but I think it means that she's a person and a human being and she evolves which is why you know when we do this stuff and why not to push the workbook but man like you could keep going back to this uh you know and a year and two years in five years and you're going to be different on dh there's gonna be different thing I hope I hope right like we need to all be evolving that it's not then something is wrong and you're probably in a place of really big stuck ification and so to get a different outcome every few years every year every few months or something I think just means that you're evolving as a person our type of personality type and our and our values and our and our skill set and our beliefs I mean they're they're always going to be changing and more thing and that's why I feel like this work is so important and focused on who you are now and then you could do the work again when you feel yourself changing again and you need more clarity when you're in a different phase of your life uh you know it's evolution so that's that's really the piece of that gas can over yeah, I had read something about that word said essentially just keep following right feeling things s oh, I like that idea that you know again sort of talking about yesterday too that it can change and evolve that you can check back in with yourself in a few years does it still work for you if it does great if it doesn't it doesn't mean the wrong choice it just means now it's time for something new and I'm writing this down just follow right feeling things I have one in my hand I'd like to call it my mantra as if we have since we have time I might share it then that speaks to that won because I made a sentence I felt that same way it's funny we're very in sync it's thanks um so if I'll read mine then okay colorful dreamer on a balance attorney seeks light rests and dark smiles make the happy come music is my falco or you won't die in the swamp of sadness why all your favorite movies? Very inspirational lights air pretty look for the lights follow the trail of happy that's leading the way so it's already like, you know it is making you happy and there's a trail of it somewhere that's inspired you that you've gotten a whiff of so, like follow that in that direction experience love through a medium breathe deep smile a lot their muscles in your face you wear your dogs god worship the sun where costumes lived through empathy live like this is my favorite from gandhi live like there's no tomorrow learn as though there's an eternity. Okay, do we see now like this is all. So this is part of our vampire slaying kit. This is part of how we gain trust. This is part of how we keep moving forward and working through the vampire voices on dh. This is also I mean, if we really think ahead of writing and maybe untraditional resume or or putting up a website and you wanted to tell people about you like like these air your truth and who you are and just be a really great way to tell people here the things that I believe this is this is my perspective this is where I'm coming from so you're able to tell it to yourself and should you choose to share it then you're gonna be able to tell it other people teo mmm now we've got some more general questions about the course overall pleased about this that sounds great we got like you know fifteen ish minutes scott gets clean about yeah great interview if you're okay with that michelle yes these do it now you probably can identify with this enormously dominique is asking she basically has a family basis. She was watching this course only after she managed get the baby to sleep saying do you have advice for people who are trying to craft their dream career but simply are not free to just pick up and go anywhere any time because you know she's off got a very young family but she really wants to have a career with travel freedom awesome experience etcetera but it just doesn't seem practical um dominic where's the camera dominy hello? Hello dominic uh if there was a big group of p if everyone was able to just pick up and do whatever they want to at any time I would not be standing here right now I would not have been able to do this work full time for the last four plus years and overall for the last six years I would not have been able to make this work. We're grown ups, and we have grown up means and priorities and responsibilities. And so I it's it's about the baby steps I've said this before I will say it again. It's about the baby steps it's about feeling the career fear and doing it anyway. It's about planning your effective escape? Maybe you're not even escaping a job, but maybe you're just kind of escaping a situation. What is it that's going to make you feel comfortable and confident to do that? What's the very smallest thing you could dio and just you keep moving forward, right? So I used this analogy yesterday. Uh, but I feel like it's such a strong one, so it doesn't have to be this transition doesn't have to be I'm jumping off a cliff, I'm jumping out of a plane, I'm you know, taking a big leap could literally be like, okay, the tight rope that I'm told I have to walk is not thirty feet in the air it's on the ground and you know, I'm just gonna do my work and I'm gonna work I'm gonna walk on the tightrope just on the ground as it's laying on the floor and there's gonna be a point. When I looked back and the tight rope is gone and I'm walking on my own that's how you could step things up for yourself as a grown up, and we just know that like things are not nothing has to happen tomorrow, nothing is going to happen tomorrow. Um unless I don't know you have a winning lottery ticket amen and hallelujah or your parents call you up and say, hey, we didn't have that trust fund for you ha ha! We were just kidding when you ask for it earlier here it is I mean, unless something like that happens issue, which none of us could plan on, um then then just know, ok, well, I'm setting my own course I'm going to start putting things in motion it's going to take awhile? What can I just start doing? Step by step by step by step? Yes, I I love the idea to somebody told me this the other day and it made me feel so relieved. Yeah, she said, you can do it all. You just can't do it all at once, you know? So you could be a mom, you know, of small children for however long that takes and then you can be, you know, the next thing and that, you know, so it doesn't you can do it all, but not kat. And I would say, who would want to do it all at once? That sounds stressful. It does, but some people get anxious that's all never do it right now, right? And, you know, and I know that there's a lot of hang ups about, like, what's the right thing to do first, what should I do first? What? And like we've, we're waiting for the magic answers to what to do first to come from the sky, and I find that one hundred percent of the time there's no wrong answer. The only wrong answer, actually, it's not true, there's. One wrong answer. And that is not to do anything at all, and to spend all your time trying to figure out what to do first and what to do next. Is it so important to figure out, you know, the pattern of things? No, it's it's, not so. Just start doing it, start doing it now, start picking the one thing that gives you the most equal amounts of excitement and fear and start down that path and just do it. So we need to do. Yeah, you said that, um uh, enjoying the journey who, huh, because I from my own experience, I've you know, just tunnel vision to do something, and I get it done, and I'm like, uh, it wasn't as exciting as I thought it was gonna be, but had enjoyed the whole process or really kind of folk it's on the whole thing, it would, I think, made it a little bit better. I love that, and I think that especially if we're doing things that we know, we know I need to do for a business is very generous, but we don't necessarily like to do it. I always talk about how we make this more fun. How crank this more enjoyable, so maybe like, oh, you, you don't want to be looking at your bank account and balancing your checkbook and blah, blah, blah so it's such a dream, you never do it. Well, what if you went to your favorite spot and today you sat by the lake? You got your favorite beverage? What if you bribed yourself with doing something that you've been wanting to do to treat yourself after you did it? I'm all about bribes, I don't think that we're too old for them, so a lot of times I'll have my clients when they set, uh, set up a homework assignment or they set up a goal, I'll say what are you gonna do when you get there and I asked them, did you did you get that pedicure? Yeah, that massage did you go and get that pumpkin spice latte that you wanted and and knowing that to begin with is a really motivating piece so how do we make it more enjoyable? That's a really great question to ask that reminds me of our thoughts create our experiences I love that too our thoughts create our experiences fantastic resonated with me too because I was uh I was with somebody for like, nine years and it was it got two really toxic point when he started to say thing that this I'm almost happy like I'm almost there and it wasn't like I don't know if he's ever gotten there to be honest, but that tunnel vision I think really makes people stay in a potentially negative place for far too long well, it's, that thing of you know, the devil you know, than the devil you don't and I think that's why so many people tell themselves they can't leave their jobs, they can't they can't make that change like what if I do this and then it's gonna be just this batter it's gonna be worse so I might as well put up with this boyfriend a job or boss or situation or a roommate or, you know, whatever then and find something now, um, and I think it's changed to, I think, like just as as human beings. Ah, we're conditioned for that fight or flight sort of thing. So now, in twenty fourteen, obviously we're not being chased by tigers and needing to go out, get around food. But, like, you know, we are our bodies and our minds don't want change. That's where the resistance is coming from it that's where the vampire voices air coming from. And when you're the one initiating the change, I think it's one thing when the change happens to you, when you get sick, when you get fired, you know when something tremendous, someone close to you dies like something happens then and, you know, that's less vampire voices because you're just reacting and responding. But when it's you initiating the change your your body and mind, like, what do you do? You? Are you dumb? Like where? Safe here, where save and to me safe is a four letter word.